He must be thus: earnest, urgent, and bland – among his friends, earnest and urgent; among his brethren, bland.
切切、偲偲、怡怡如也，可谓士矣。朋友切切、偲偲，兄弟怡怡。
Source: The Analects, Zi Lu XIII, Chapter 28
Author: Confucius
The Scholar’s Way in Relationships: Earnest with Friends, Harmonious with Brethren
